Dating is already hard to do as it is, but with the danger of a pandemic in the back of everyone’s minds, dating has become more challenging than we could have ever imagined. The fear of rejection, simply put, is the least of our worries. However, in order to keep ourselves sane, we need human interaction.
Dating is already hard to do as it is, but with the danger of a pandemic in the back of everyone’s minds, dating has become more challenging than we could have ever imagined. The fear of rejection, simply put, is the least of our worries. However, in order to keep ourselves sane, we need human interaction. This begs the question, how do we even start thinking about dating someone new or even trust our partner when we aren’t around to ensure that they are being cautious enough in their social bubble? Well, I’m glad you asked.
Living in a pandemic has not only made us conscious of the possible infection of the disease but also reminds us that life is too short to dwell on the small things. For this reason, choosing who we go out with should no longer focus heavily on how a person looks, but more about what is important to you to have in a significant other. This means that if you have ‘has to look like Denzel’ or ‘must be muscular’ at the top of your list, just go ahead and cross that out. Save those spaces for what really matters to you, like that of honesty and kindheartedness. Simply taking the time to focus on what you really want in a partner, can possibly lead “towards higher success in marriages,” and a longer-lasting relationship.
Before meeting someone face to face, try video dating. Trust me, it’s not as bad as it sounds. This form of meeting can allow you to take the time to get to know them before becoming physical. As a Forbes article puts it, “stripping an interaction down to its basics could actually be quite informative and beneficial.” Especially since watching Catfish for so many years, we have come to realize that you can tell a lot about a person just by their refusal or acceptance to show their face on a screen. Without knowing it, you are taking the time to discover whether or not to continue speaking with this person going forward. It’s better to know what to expect than to waste any more of your time.
Don’t be afraid to ask the hard questions before meeting in person, so you can get a sense of where their risk levels are and whether they are taking any safety precautions. This way, ground rules, and boundaries are set so that everyone is on the same page, and is not going on the date with different expectations. So what does that look like? According to a wellness article from NBC News, there are key steps we need to follow in order to have a successful interaction:
Otherwise, when in doubt, take a stroll in the park. Nothing like getting back to the basics, am I right?
Never forget to have weekly check-ins with your partner to ensure that they have been staying in their social bubble. This does not mean to start tracking them without their consent, but rather opening up that space to discover what you are both doing to stay safe. You must be able to have open conversations from anything like“fears, potential exposures, and sex,” because if you can not be honest with your partner then who will you confide in? A relationship is nothing without communication, so why not be open?
All in all, even though we are stuck in this never-ending cycle, we should not deny ourselves the opportunity to be in close connection with another human being. Relationships should not be downplayed during this time, as we still need human connection throughout our everyday life. Let’s take the time to relearn dating and find our true love.
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