Understanding Intimacy

August 10, 2021

When we think about intimacy, the next thing that comes to mind is typically sex. What we have failed to realize is that intimacy is so much more than just the physical. In fact, physical intimacy is only one of the five types of intimacy.

When we think about intimacy, the next thing that comes to mind is typically sex. What we have failed to realize is that intimacy is so much more than just the physical. In fact, physical intimacy is only one of the five types of intimacy. The other types include; emotional, intellectual, experiential, and spiritual intimacy. Without all five types of intimacy, a relationship can start to drift apart and remain at a very superficial level.

Here at Official, we are all about helping you and your partner maintain a relationship that allows room to grow and explore one another. So let’s learn about these intimacies together.

 

Emotional Intimacy

In regards to emotional intimacy, it’s really just that: diving headfirst into the emotional aspects of your relationship. When practicing emotional intimacy, you and your partner will be able to share thoughts and feelings openly and freely. This act can help build trust in your relationship and lead you to feel more safe and comfortable around one another.

According to Mind Body Green, this form of intimacy can be fostered by “engaging in deeper, more introspective conversation together, focusing on the emotions and experiences you don’t usually share with each other.” At the end of the day, you want to make sure that you are listening to understand; rather than listening to respond.

 

Intellectual Intimacy

Intellectual intimacy is all about the mind and the way we think about a variety of subjects. We have to realize that everyone will not know everything or have the same opinion you do, especially your partner. With this form of intimacy, you and your partner will have the freedom to think for yourselves and believe that your opinions are valued.

Let’s face it, if we all thought the same way about everything, things would get boring. No one wants a yes man or woman (Unless you do, no judgment here). Conflicting thoughts and opinions can lead to a better understanding of your partner and spark discussions where you and your partner have different perspectives. Just remember not to become defensive or angry, but instead remain calm.

 

Experiential Intimacy

This type of intimacy is about sharing experiences and memories with your partner. Yes, there is always time to do things on your own or with a group of friends, but there is nothing like sharing those special moments with your partner as well. This can be anything from trying new adventures or even showing your partner something you love to do. Together, these plans together can lead to interwoven memories and acquired knowledge that you wouldn’t have previously had without your partner.

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Spiritual Intimacy

Sharing a religious practice with your partner isn’t necessary for spiritual intimacy, even though it can add a little extra to the relationship. Spiritual intimacy can be anything from praying and worshipping together as a couple to becoming one with nature. It’s all about growing a transcendent connection beyond logic and conscious thought.

To increase spiritual intimacy, you and your partner can engage in a spiritual conversation. This allows each of you to discover experiences the other considers to be awe-inspiring.

Fear of Intimacy

If you or your partner are scared of intimacy, I’m here to tell you that you are not the only one! Not everyone is too keen on the idea of intimacy-- the idea of becoming too close with your significant other can be frightening, and that’s okay.

This does not mean that you don’t love your partner. Rather, it can mean that you are fearful of being hurt. In fact, the most common causes of this fear, according to Good Therapy, are abandonment issues, fear of rejection, control issues, and even past abuse. If any of these sound familiar to you, don’t be afraid to communicate this with your partner. They may be more understanding than you expect them to be.

Now that you are familiar with the different forms of intimacy, you and your partner will be able to grow stronger and closer, together. Being intimate with your partner, whether it be emotionally, intellectually, experientially, spiritually, or even physically, is a huge step to take in your relationship. Remember, it’s about doing whatever it takes to stay official.

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Emilia RIvera

My name is Emilia and I am one of the Blog writers here at Official. Ever since I was a little girl, I have loved everything about words from the stories it creates to the alternate universe escape.